controls: block resume if cruise not previously engaged (#25402)

* see if this works at all

* can revert this

* think adding a no entry conditionally is nicer

* then we can revert this

* 0 makes more sense

* Revert "0 makes more sense"

This reverts commit efc89e8a2389ef58fbc0cec0a2872d24db524867.

* gm CC uses > 70

* bump cereal

* comment

* test on Honda

* whoops

* works

* add exception with todo

* moved button enable events to controlsd

* get rid of that

get rid of that

* different values for now

* car interfaces add enable event, controlsd can block it

* Regen and update refs

* delete if not set

* One place

one place

* regen routes are uninitialized first few frames

* Trim start of segment so it's like original segment

* stash

* regen

* not working

* clean up

* more cleanup

* revert

* bump ceral

* actually check resume button

* whoops

* pcmCruise cars don't use setSpeed, so we're good

* engage correctly in sim

* Update ref_commit

* Update refs
old-commit-hash: 5ed587ebeff24bacf70c44879616c51756730bba

tools/sim/tests/test_carla_integration.py

@@ -77,7 +77,7 @@ class TestCarlaIntegration(unittest.TestCase):
     while time.monotonic() < start_time + max_time_per_step:
       sm.update()
 
-      q.put("cruise_up")  # Try engaging
+      q.put("cruise_down")  # Try engaging
 
       if sm.all_alive() and sm['controlsState'].active:
         control_active += 1