carControl: add long and lat active fields (#23859)

* proof of concept

* actuators packet describes which actuators are active

* bump cereal

* fixes

* not needed for this PR

* Do Toyota

* add back controlsState.active

* bump cereal

* rest of cars

* in actuators

* add active back

* which

* use controlsState.active for now

* will make an issue

* Update selfdrive/controls/controlsd.py

Co-authored-by: Adeeb Shihadeh <adeebshihadeh@gmail.com>

* move local lat_active checks into CC.latActive

* remove redundant checks

* move comment

move comment

* fix joystick mode

* get enabled from carcontrol

* do standstill check in controlsd

* make sure we consider the gas press case for GM

* use CC.actuators

* fix

* capitalization

* Bump cereal

Bump cereal

* make intermediate actuators

* similar convention to before

* clean that up

* update refs

Co-authored-by: Adeeb Shihadeh <adeebshihadeh@gmail.com>

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